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Sara Trojanowski's avatar

Love this, Melissa! Thank you for sharing❤️❤️!!

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Jessica M's avatar

Yes and Amen! 🙌thank you for sharing these pearls.

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jae's avatar
Dec 22Edited

Such a refreshing perspective. As a female, we are groomed to fear aging at all costs, which I am actively trying to reprogram that fear, which is definitely an uphill battle. I loved your viewpoints, particularly about the peace in accepting who you are.

I can’t wait to be the 80 year old in the gym bringing back leg warmers, tights, and leotards!

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Melissa Urban's avatar

We ARE conditioned to fear aging, and I'll tell you, 30 was freedom, 40 was a different kind of freedom, and 50 is the most freedom yet. (Can't wait for 60!)

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Rachel F's avatar

I turned 40 in November and omg every time I talk to a woman in her 50s I think, omg I want THAT... I have a lot of plans for this coming year that are trying to bring this energy into my life as much as I possibly can. Thanks for this encouraging post.

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Tessa Arneson's avatar

Bless. Dug it as I dig into my ins and outs for this year, self love and DGAF is def up there.

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Melissa's avatar

I've followed you for a decade or so and man oh man, what a freaking celebration this letter is! I'm ending a different decade this year and am so pumped for the next one. Thank you for sharing this with us, for giving voice to what we gain as we age!

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Melissa Urban's avatar

Ah, thanks for the years of support! It just keeps getting better ❤️

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Melissa Ruvalcaba's avatar

Love it! I just turned 50 this year. Many blessings! I love the way you empower others! ❤️ merry Christmas, btw!

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Melissa Urban's avatar

Happy 50th!! Thanks so much ❤️

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Katie Crokus's avatar

I will save this, read this and celebrate this over and over again. Thank you for this incredible piece!

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Melissa Urban's avatar

Please do! We all need reminding from time to time—even me ❤️

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Anna Kirby's avatar

I learned a new acronym today—IDGAF! Definitely the theme of my 50’s so far. My energy is for me. Done wearing myself out trying to make other people happy. Especially people who don’t reciprocate.

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Melissa Urban's avatar

Oh that is one of my favorites! Use liberally 👏👏👏

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