WWMUD: Should I really take nothing personally?
How do I know if I'm setting healthy boundaries or avoiding my own issues?
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Dear MU: Where is the intersection between “don’t take anything personally” and boundaries? Is there a point where I really do just need to grow a thicker skin? How will I know if my “boundaries” really mean I’m just asking others to walk on eggshells around me? –Amy
This is an excellent question, and doesn’t have a bright line or a “one size fits all.” There are two key points at play here:
Healthy boundaries are flexible; changing as your needs, your context, and the relationship change
Your boundary response should be proportionate to the amount of risk the boundary ovestep poses to your health, safety, and relationship
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