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My FAVORITE thing about you is that you are always honest and vulnerable on the internet and with your readers. Because no one would know that you felt this way if you weren't completely transparent. Thank you so much for trusting yourself and by extension us :) <3

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I appreciate that. For me, it's been a hell of a month to be on the internet.

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Andrea, my thoughts exactly! 💗

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I saw those reviews and instantly thought, “These people don’t understand what this book is meant to accomplish.” I love the book and I appreciate your candor and vulnerability. Thank you.

This one is going on the whiteboard in my office!

“Stress is an alarm that lets you know you’re attaching to something not true for you.” —Byron Katie

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This. I'm going to share this a doezen times today with people I know need to hear this. "It's not your job to like me. It's mine." Writing this one down in all the places I'll need to see it.

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It's a doozy, but bears repeating!!!

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Bookmarking this one. Thank you!

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Happy to share, author to author!

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Literally came here to say the exact same thing!

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Love this! Thank you for sharing and reminding us to like ourselves and not rely on other people for that validation. ❤️

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This is everything!!! 😊👏🏼 Thank you for sharing your process with us, and for once again being so open and real. Will be saving this one to look back at all this wisdom you’ve shared and also to remind myself that I can also model, like you have, being so open and transparent (for both me and others!) about working through things that we want to grow in or do differently next time around. 😊🙏🏼

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I love this one. It’s so inspiring and thoughtful, and honest. I love your honesty and your genuine approach. You really put it out there.

I think this could be true for external validation in areas of my life, and I could really be better about learning how to sit in it. (External validation from a partner or friends for instance) hurtful things are hurtful things, but sitting with the hurt, acknowledging it’s okay, and being able to move forward once that occurs, is SO important.

ALL this to say. Thank you for the reminder and honesty. Also, thank you for being so easy to read.

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You let yourself sit with it but also you rallied for yourself. I LOVE that. Let's all do that sometimes. You, rah, rah, me—rah rah !📣 External validation alongside internal validation. I'm in. You taught me a new word: self-repoach. This is such solid proof that your writing makes a positive difference, but of course you already knew that (and it's made a positive difference to you too). Off to tell everyone to write a positive Amazon review now. I can't wait to hear more about all of this. Keep writing!

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Thanks so much, Heather! ❤️❤️

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Melissa, thank you so much for this post. I'm going to share it with my various author groups. It also reminds me that I need to go back and re-read the chapter about "Unhooking from Praise and Criticism" in Tara Mohr's book Playing Big. It's excellent.

And it's funny you should post today--I'm on Day 3 of my 2nd Whole30 (my husband and I are doing it together, which is another story), and I was thinking about a way to tell you how much I like the new book.

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I’m so glad you enjoy it! It can make me happy without artificially inflating my sense of worth and value ❤️❤️

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Your transparency about this and so many other things is why you are beloved by us! Thank you for being you!

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Thank you so much, Kris XO

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What a sh*t weekend Melissa! Thanks for sharing with us xx

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It's been kind of a shit month in terms of what the internet is saying about me, and boy is there a lot of therapy happening behind the scenes around that. I welcome the opportunity! (While also acknowledging that it sucks at the same time.)

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