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Aimee's avatar

I’ve absolutely been in a similar situation, and the feelings do suck, but I’ve also been in a situation where my employer made the decision to lay off basically my entire department (30+ people) because they wanted to outsource our jobs to a firm in a foreign (read: cheaper) country. (It did not go well for them.) So I agree with you, Melissa, that while we can certainly take our employers and coworkers into consideration, we should never make (or not make) decisions in our best interest purely because of them.

Also, as I read this, I wondered for the first time: how many men struggle with thoughts and feelings like this when deciding whether or not to leave a job? My guess is very few. I wonder if this is another issue that women predominantly struggle with, like salary negotiations, etc.

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amanda's avatar

I left my old job in December with 5 weeks notice. I didn’t take the few days of PTO I had (had to burn all of it to have a baby, gotta love those family values) so my coworker could take her Christmas vacation. Before I left they asked me to recommend who they should interview to be my replacement since I would be “such a loss” (I work in a very niche role) so I did and gave them ten names.

My replacement? Someone from a different department with no relevant experience who is now making $25k more than I did in the job I killed myself at for four years.

I regret not being even more honest in my exit interview.

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