XO, MU by Melissa Urban

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WWMUD: My friend keeps offering unsolicited advice

How do I set a boundary around this?

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Melissa Urban
Jan 06, 2023
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Dear MU, Could you offer a kind boundary for when someone you’ve previously asked for and accepted advice from now continuously offers unsolicited advice, even when you don’t ask and don’t want it? –Just Listen

Having been on the receiving and bestowing end of unsolicited advice, I understand exactly how tricky this is. If you as the advice-giver have experience or expertise that could prevent someone you care about from pain, hardship, or suffering, why wouldn’t you want to shove it at them? But sometimes, as the advice-receiver, we don’t want you to fix it or insert your own opinions—we want you to listen, support, and allow us the space and grace to figure it out for ourselves, even if we end up doing it the hard way.

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