How to set and hold boundaries around your time, money, and energy as a bridesmaid or maid of honor
Be forewarned, I'm about to sound like an old lady, "Back in my day...." When I got married (14 years ago) my bridesmaids were involved in these decisions. Having my people with me during these events WAS the experience I wanted. Certainly, this friend (the bride), might gracefully say either - oh, I would so much rather you be there, I'm happy to make xyz adjustments OR I hear you and I get it, but xyz are really important to me and I also don't want you to push your limits, so it might be best if you step down. I think either outcome is great. What I don't understand and have see a lot of posts on are brides who create a difficult agenda, demand it be followed and then get angry if someone can't / doesn't want to. I don't feel like you can have it both ways.