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Colleen's avatar

I definitely recognize that I do this a lot. Usually I’m the one staying calm. Being aware that in Human Design my open emotional solar plexus means I feel not only my emotions but those around me, has helped me see when emotions ramp up in our house, (because all 3 of us are open in this center) as one spicy mood can set off everyone else, and catch my reactions so I can stay calm and not pick up the spiciness.

Talking about this with my family has been helpful so that we’re openly communicating about how we’re feeling and when we’re struggling to regulate. So proud of the tools we’re teaching ourselves and our teen.

And today I was getting really disregulated shopping, and knew to walk away and let my hubby manage the situation, and they could both recognize my struggle and step up to be the calm.

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Sarah B. Johnson's avatar

My husband and I have had this same rule since we married in 2001 but we call it the “50 percent rule.”Only one half of the relationship can be struggling/frustrated/grumpy/freaked out etc. at any one time. The other half needs to provide the positive balance to that. It was my husband’s idea initially and mostly it’s worked! We’re still married all these years later.

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